This bold and spiritually grounded article by Keith Muoki challenges the modern obsession with seeking relationships without inner readiness. Drawing from Proverbs 4:23 and Matthew 6:33, it reveals how true love is not found through prayer alone but through personal transformation, healing, and identity alignment in Christ. Keith teaches that relationships mirror our self-concept, and until you become the kind of person you desire, you’ll keep attracting what reflects your inner wounds. This is not about waiting for love—it’s about becoming it.

Before love finds you, you must find yourself.
Because no matter how attractive, successful, or spiritual you are—if your inner dialogue is filled with self-doubt, shame, or unworthiness… love will always feel just out of reach.

As the Bible says:
“Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.” (Matthew 22:39, KJV)
You can’t give what you don’t carry. You don’t attract what you want—you attract what you believe you are.

Let’s be honest: if your relationships feel like a rerun of the same heartbreak with different faces… it’s not the devil. It’s your subconscious. And until you change the program, you’ll keep dating the same energy in a different body.

As the Bible says:
“Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.” (Galatians 6:7, KJV)

You don’t attract what you want—you attract what your subconscious agrees with.

Let’s be clear: chasing love is not romantic—it’s a trauma response.
If you keep overgiving, overthinking, and overextending for people who barely give you clarity… you’re not in love. You’re in a cycle. And it’s time to break it.

As the Bible says: “The blessing of the Lord, it maketh rich, and he addeth no sorrow with it.” (Proverbs 10:22, KJV)
If love feels like confusion, emotional starvation, or performance—it’s not a blessing. It’s a signal.

You prayed. You fasted. You begged for clarity.
And yet… silence. No answer. No breakthrough. No confirmation.

It feels like God ghosted you.
But let me tell you the truth with love and authority:

God is not ignoring you—He’s protecting you.
Because sometimes His silence is not rejection. It’s redirection.

“Be still, and know that I am God.” (Psalm 46:10, KJV)

Sometimes God isn’t removing people from your life—He’s removing the version of you that tolerated what they brought.

It’s not about the breakup. It’s about the breakthrough.

“If any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away…” (2 Corinthians 5:17, KJV)

When you grow in identity, the need for certain people evaporates. Not out of hate—but out of healing.

Let’s call it what it is:
You didn’t get your heart broken because they were evil.
You got hurt because you fell in love with their potential—and ignored their patterns.

You saw the version of them in your imagination, while ignoring who they were in reality.

As it is written:
“Ye shall know them by their fruits…” (Matthew 7:16, KJV)
Not by their promises. Not by their pain. Not by their potential.
Their fruit.